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Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Step Up Your Game!



I know the new buzz term is "Level Up"... but I'm old school so I still say "Step Up Your Game !"

A small part of who you are reflects on the type of men that you attract.  Do you see similarities in the men that you’re attracting?  Are you tired of the same old song and dance…he’s dreaming big dreams but never does anything to make them come true.  He’s perfectly content wallowing in his mediocrity?  What about you? How do you measure up?

We just can’t expect the men to bring a good career, stable finances and good credit to the table. We need to bring that much plus more as well, instead of focusing on snagging him and planning our lives as his wife.  Times have changed and so have men. Today most men look for more progression in a woman; someone who they can build with, not completely provide for.  Any man that’s truly sincere would want to admire his woman’s accomplishments; good men want a partner.  This dynamic takes a lot of pressure off the two of you and frees up emotional space for a more stress free and effortless romance.

I once heard a fitness trainer say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If you’re still approaching relationships the same way, and expecting to meet a different kind of guy; stop spinning your wheels.  Save your energy and step up your game. If you want your life to be different across the board, you’re going to have to make some changes. When I say step up your game, it isn’t all for the sake of finding a better man. This is relevant for friendships, career endeavors, fitness journeys… anything you’re trying to accomplish.

You’ll find that when you’re feeling a sense of accomplishment, your self esteem rises; a whole array of blessings come your way and men follow, as a matter of fact, they’ll flock to you.  Men love a woman with a confident swagger.

Think about making conscious changes and turning yourself into the female version of the kind of man you would like to meet…It might sound kind of weird, but once you try it you’ll see that it makes perfect sense. Here are some ways that can start you off:

  • Change your social settings and be open to going to places that you’ve never been before.
  • If you’ve wanted to continue your education, than do so.  Try to surround yourself with like minded people.
  • If your finances need a makeover then take serious steps towards financial freedom.
  • Improving relations with friends and family always help one to focus on what’s important in life.
  • Promote a more positive self image…improve eating habits, exercise and make time to pamper yourself.
  • Tap into your creativity…you never know, it can turn into a new side hustle.


It’s human nature to want to improve and upgrade yourself and once you’ve stepped up your game…you will see different results.

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